Admiration over Attraction
Have you ever noticed how you act around other people may change depending on how much success you are enjoying? One of the things that I need to remind myself from time to time is that how you act now around people will have to change once you maximize your success.
That concept may sound weird until you consider the difference between “attraction” and “admiration” and why the latter is FAR SUPERIOR as both a goal and as a framework to work within.
People naturally admire success. When you get your business right and start enjoying success, people watching from a distance will admire what you are doing. If they make contact with you and your behaviour interrupts this process, you can actually look like an inconsiderate and
egotistical jerk.
If you think that people are attracted to you it can cause you to “play up” to it. It’s almost like you put on a show to win more of their attention. This happens subconsciously. We all have a need for acceptance from others, but if we allow this need to come across strongly it can make us look like a showoff or a try-hard.
When you are aware that people admire you, it seems to have more of a humbling effect. Admiration tends to be accepted quietly and confidently. This quiet acceptance builds a lot of trust in others and they start to see you as a leader.
Remember, think admiration FIRST…
Tags: admiration, attraction, leaders, leadership, personal development
