Confidence is a Feeling of Certainty

Written By: coach on August 24, 2009 One Comment

Confidence is a Feeling of Certainty

I heard this statement the other day and I finally “got it”.

I’ve always had problems with some hypnosis stuff where they ask you to remember a time when you felt confident. I was always thinking that confidence is some happy or euphoric feeling and I just couldn’t identify with that. Whenever I tried to “act” confident it was always fake. I would put on this outgoing happy persona which just isn’t me. Not that I’m a recluse or depressed or anything. But it just wasn’t real. Do you understand what I mean there?

Once I heard this statement “Confidence is a Feeling of Certainty” that’s when I realized what the feeling is. For me, I call it “dead certainty”. It’s a serious feeling of absolute, 100% knowledge that I am right. It’s not a negative feeling but a lot of times I won’t be laughing or happy. I know I’m right and I’m serious about it because I know it’s true.

This is real confidence. It’s not a “put on”, it’s not fake

Now I know how to approach those hypnosis exercises. To mentally put yourself into a state of confidence, feel certain of your success even when your knowledge suggests you should expect to fail. Confidence is not necessarily logical, it’s a belief that can go against the odds but provide massive rewards.

Lacking confidence can prevent you from performing in pressure situations. Often, the limiting factor of someone’s failure isn’t a lack of knowledge or practice, but rather the belief they have that they won’t perform well the first few times – a self-fulfilling prophecy.

A lot of times confidence comes with the result of a history of success. Being successful can build self esteem and increase confidence, but understand that you don’t actually need that real history to feel confident. Confidence is a feeling of certainty, a natural inner resource that can be summoned whenever you want it. Your mind can tell the difference between fantasy and reality. If you believe it, you will feel it.